What’s something you’ve forgiven but haven’t forgotten?
🪑🦂♏️I’ve Forgiven You. Your Seating Assignment Has Changed.🪑🦂♏️
I forgive a lot, but I never forget. I’m a Scorpio, so that’s just how I roll. Apparently, I came into this world with feelings, opinions, and a filing cabinet.
Now, before anybody gets nervous, I do try to forgive. I’m not making my life miserable because somebody else doesn’t know how to act. Life is too short, and I need my sleep!
But forgetting?
Let’s not get carried away. 😂
I can forgive you and still remember exactly why you no longer get certain information. You might notice our conversations have gotten a little more weather-related.
“How have you been?”
“Good! Looks like rain.”
“What’s new?”
“Well, apparently more rain.”
There was a time you got the whole story. Now you get the forecast. I wish you well. Bring an umbrella. ☔️
Some People Get a Different Seat
Not forgetting helps me remember where to keep people in my life. How close they should be. How much I can trust them. Whether they get the full conversation or the version I’d be comfortable hearing repeated in the middle of the grocery store.
Because forgiveness can happen, and access can still change!
If I tell you something in confidence and it somehow becomes community news, I can forgive you. But the next time you ask for details, you’re getting information that’s already available to the general public.
I don’t need a press secretary. Especially one I never hired! 😂
And if somebody keeps showing me the same behavior, eventually I have to quit acting surprised. At some point, “I can’t believe they did that again!” needs to become, “Well, there it is. Right on schedule.”
I can’t control what other people do. I can control whether I keep giving them front-row seats.🪑
Some people belong close. Some belong a little farther back. And some are perfectly lovely when viewed from across a parking lot. 🤣
Please Allow Time for Processing
Now, I’m not going to sit here and pretend I forgive everybody immediately.
Sometimes it takes a while. I might need to think about it, cool off, and have a very convincing argument with you in my head while you’re somewhere completely unaware you’re losing!
Then I’ll work on letting it go.
Please do not rush me through this process. If you’ve just upset me, asking, “Are you still mad?” every eleven minutes is not going to speed things up.💨
Forgiveness does not come with express shipping! 📦
But I do try to get there, for my own sake. I don’t want to spend my whole day irritated over something I can’t change. I have things to do besides mentally prosecuting somebody who has probably already moved on to lunch!
The Lesson Can Stay
People seem to get forgiveness and forgetting tangled up.
If I touch a hot pan, I can move on with my life. I can cook again. I don’t have to stand in the kitchen yelling at the stove forever.
But I’m using an oven mitt next time! 🧤
That’s where I’m at with people.
I can let go of the anger and keep the lesson. I can be polite, wish you the best, and make different choices about how much of my life I share with you.
You may be forgiven. You may also have lost your backstage pass! 🎟️
Life is what you make it, and I’m not losing sleep over stupid stuff. I’d rather put my energy into the things I can control and enjoy the people who make life better.
So yes, I’ll try to forgive you. It might take me a minute, but I’ll get there, Heavens to Betsy Ross and Charlie Brown!!!
Just don’t confuse my peace with amnesia.
I’m a Scorpio. That filing cabinet has excellent drawers! 🦂😂
So forgive when you’re ready, protect your peace, and remember: just because somebody’s still in your life doesn’t mean they get the VIP pass! Some folks are perfectly fine in general admission. 😂
Life is too short to carry a grudge around like an overpacked suitcase. Put it down, learn the lesson, and go enjoy your life!
YOLO! CARPE DIEM! 💃
XOXO,
Christy, Unfiltered 💋
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