The Mid Life Dating Files 2025

Do you have a quote you live your life by or think of often?

The Golden Rule… With a Few Fine Print Clauses (and Maybe a Lifeboat Plan 🏝️)

I like to think I live by a solid, time-tested philosophy: The Golden Rule — do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Simple. Classic. Makes you sound like you’ve got your life together.

And honestly? I do believe in it… about 100%.

…with a few minor amendments.

Because here’s the thing nobody tells you when you’re growing up reciting that rule: some people did not get the memo. Like at all. Not a sticky note, not a group text, not even a carrier pigeon. Nothing.

You know the ones.

The ones who treat kindness like it’s optional.

The ones who wake up and choose chaos.

The ones who don’t just bring drama—they are the entire season finale.

And I’ve made an executive decision: I don’t do drama. I don’t want drama. My life is not accepting drama applications at this time or any time in the foreseeable future.

Not. One. Bit.

So while I fully support the Golden Rule, I’ve added a personal clause:

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you… unless they act like they were raised by raccoons in a Walmart parking lot.”

In those cases, I don’t argue. I don’t engage. I don’t deliver speeches or try to fix them.

I simply… disappear.

Not in a dramatic way. No announcement. No exit music.

Just a quiet, peaceful unsubscribe from their existence.

If I absolutely have to be around them? Oh, I become a minimalist.

Minimal words. Minimal eye contact. Maximum distance.

Because let’s be honest—sometimes saying nothing says everything. And more importantly, it keeps your peace intact.

Now, on the flip side, when it comes to my people? Oh, it’s a whole different story.

I am very intentional.

If I’m planning something, you better believe I’m curating that guest list like it’s an exclusive island retreat. If you’re there, it’s because you bring good energy, good vibes, and you know how to act like a decent human being.

Honestly, at this point, I’m about two decisions away from buying an island and only inviting my favorite humans.

And you know what? The older I get, the more I realize—that’s not being rude… that’s being wise.

Protect your peace. Guard your energy. Choose your circle.

Because life is way too short to spend it dodging unnecessary chaos when you could be laughing, relaxing, and enjoying the company of people who actually know how to be kind.

Now… one final disclaimer.

While I like to think I operate under the Golden Rule…

There is also Spirit Water.

And let me just say—she does not always follow the rules.

She’s unpredictable. She’s a wildcard. She occasionally overrides my better judgment and says things I might need to apologize for later.

I don’t control her. I simply try to manage her.

So if you see her show up… just know…

I tried. 😂