The Mid Life Dating Files 2025

What is the last thing you learned?

The Last Thing I Learned: Trust Your Instincts (and Maybe Only Your Dad)

So, what’s the last thing I learned in life?

Simple: Don’t trust a man…unless it’s your dad.

Now before anyone panics, relax—I’m mostly joking. Mostly.

The past two days have been an absolute circus. I’ve had a guy calling and texting me nonstop trying to convince me that I’m “missing out” because I won’t give him a chance. According to him, I should be grateful for the opportunity. Apparently I’m supposed to overlook the fact that everything that comes out of his pie hole is a lie.

Not a small lie. Not a little exaggeration.

I’m talking Olympic-level, gold medal, professional lying.

But here’s where the story gets funny.

What he doesn’t know…is that while he was trying to start a “relationship” with me, he was living with another woman.

And guess what?

She contacted me.

And now…

We’re friends.

Yes, you read that correctly. Instead of fighting over him like he probably imagined in his little fantasy world, we compare notes like two detectives working a case. We talk about the things he says to each of us, and the stories he tells.

And let me tell you…those stories change more than the Alabama weather.

Here’s the best part.

Sometimes I’ll tell him something, and later he’ll repeat it back to me like he was the one who said it first. He spins it around like he’s the one ending the “friendship,” when in reality, I already closed that door and locked it.

Bless his heart.

Meanwhile, she and I are on the phone laughing because we already compared notes and caught him in three new lies before lunch.

He has absolutely no clue that we talk.

None.

Zero.

In his mind, he’s probably juggling two women who are completely fooled.

In reality?

We’re just over here watching the show and eating popcorn.

But all joking aside, the whole situation did remind me of something important: trust your instincts.

When something feels off, it usually is. When stories don’t add up, there’s a reason. And in today’s world, you really don’t know if someone is talking to one person…or ten.

The good news?

Sometimes crazy situations bring unexpected blessings. Because while he was busy telling lies, I ended up gaining a new friend.

And honestly?

That’s a much better deal.

So the lesson of the week is simple:

Trust your instincts.

Believe actions more than words.

And if something doesn’t make sense…

Compare notes.

You might just find yourself laughing about it with a new friend.