The Mid Life Dating Files 2025

Name your top three pet peeves.

My top pet peeves are lying, bullying, and drama—whether it comes from a partner, a friend, or even family. I value peace in my life, and I refuse to make space for unnecessary chaos. If someone tries to bring drama into my world, I will not entertain it. I will distance myself for the sake of my peace, even if it means stepping back from people I care about.

I also do not tolerate bullying of any kind. Whether it comes from a child or an adult, a stranger or a family member, bullying is hateful, and I want no part of it.

And the biggest deal-breaker for me is dishonesty. The moment I find out someone has lied to me, I have no problem walking away. I’ve experienced lies in my past marriage, and I will not allow that in my life again. I’ve also been deeply hurt by a best friend who lied and betrayed my trust, and that experience taught me not to ignore red flags, no matter who they come from. I’m very transparent, and honesty is something I expect in every relationship—romantic, friendship, or family.

So, lying, bullying, and drama are absolutely off-limits in my life. I value peace, truth, and respect in every relationship around me, and I will protect those values at all costs.